If you do a Google search on the term “Friends With Benefits,” you’ll find tons of different opinions. Some will say that these relationships don’t really do any harm, so its okay to enter this type of relationship. Others will tell you that these types of relationships are dangerous. So, with all the different messages out there about friends with benefits, how do you decide what’s right?
First of all, if you’re a Christian, you should be asking, ‘what does the Bible has to say about these types of relationships?’ The Bible should be your final answer on all issues. The Bible says, “Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18 I like how the Bible puts it…Run away from sexual sin. Bottom line, if a friends with benefits relationship causes you to sin sexually, you should run away from it.
Secondly, no matter what culture tells you, sex is more than just a physical act. Sex is like super glue. It binds you together to the person that you have sex with. That’s why God encourages you to save sex until marriage. Sex is much more than physical and shouldn’t be taken lightly. There is a great quote from the movie, Friends With Benefits that says it really well. They’re talking about friends with benefits and Tommy says this, “She’s a girl. Sex always means more to them even if they don’t admit it”.
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, sex always means more than just the physical act. God designed it that way. Sex is like glue, and if you think you can have lots of sex with lots of different people without getting affected in some way, you’re believing a lie. Sex will affect you, so like 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, run away from sexual sin. Run away from relationships that cause you to sin sexually. Run away from those relationships, so that when the time is right, you will be ready to meet the person that you’re looking for.
Sex180: The Next Revolution This is a great book with lots of ways to rethink our culture’s view of sexuality and challenges you to think about sex how God would!