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Tips For Dealing With Bullying

Bullying is becoming more and more common these days among teenagers. In fact, one in four kids in the U.S. are bullied on a regular basis according to bullyingstatistics.org. So more likely than not, you or someone you know has felt the effects of bullying.

Teenage Bullying Devotional

So what are some things you can do to help combat bullying in your school?

  1. Pray – it sounds absolutely crazy, but sometimes the best thing to do in these situations is to pray. Pray that God will give you wisdom to know how to deal with the situation. Pray for those who are bullying that God will open their eyes to see what it is they’re doing (Eph 3:17-23)
  2. Love – this is super crazy. It does work. Walking in love is a great way to combat bullying. If you respond in love, it gives the bully no fuel to the fire. Kill them with kindness, it works.
  3. Tell – If someone is being abused physically against their will, you are justified in telling a teacher, principal or faculty member at your school.
These are a few suggestions to help with dealing with bullying in your school. Never underestimate the power of praying for those who are bullying others. More than likely, the person bullying is really hurting inside. You might be the person that God could use to help heal them. You may even end up with the opportunity to lead them to Christ!

 

How To Deal With A Break-up

Breaking up will happen to you.  Plain and simple.  Sometimes breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend really hurts.  Other times, a break up might feel like such a sweet relief.

Part of being in a relationship with the opposite sex is learning how to deal with a break-up.  Because let’s face it, unless you end up marrying the person you’re dating, you’re going to break up with them.  So with that in mind, here are some tips for dealing with a break-up.

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1. Determine your basis for your self-esteem – This is an important thing to think about.  If your worth comes from who your friends are, who you’re dating, or any other person, your break-up is going to hurt more.  There is not a single person who can love you enough to fill your heart or heal your hurts.  At some point people will let you down.  So, where should our worth come from?

Worth should be based on what God says about us, not what we feel, not what others do or say to us.  Reading Psalm 139 is a great place to start when determining a foundation for your self-esteem.

2.  What you put in determines the level of hurt on the way out – if you invest everything into a relationship, your money, your body, your time, your emotions, you’d better believe it will hurt when the relationship ends.  Girls especially, until your wedding day, you need to be guarding your heart, your body and your emotions.  Don’t give those things away freely like so many do.  Until you have said your vows, there is a large chance that this relationship will break off and you not be with the person you’re dating.  My advice to you is this…don’t give it all away.  It is not worth it.  What you put into a relationship will determine how much it hurts when it ends.

3.  Realize your relationship is temporary – Around 99% of high school relationships don’t end in marriage.  What does this mean?  It means that you’re going to get dumped.  So don’t take your relationship too seriously.  Don’t tell that person you love them.  Don’t have sex with them.  Don’t ignore all other relationships because of them.  See the relationship for what it is…it is temporary.  Relationships are good to get to know people of the opposite sex and find out what types of people you would like in a future marriage partner.  However, its more than likely going to end, so don’t invest too much into a relationship.

4. Ask God to heal you – Maybe you’ve been really hurt by someone in this break-up process.  No matter what, relationships do hurt when they end, that’s just a fact of life.  Ask God to heal you where you’re hurting.  Ask for his wisdom and help with healing your heart after a relationship that has ended.  He is able to help heal you when no one else can.

 

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How to Be A Good Friend

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Being a good friend isn’t always easy. In fact, sometimes it takes hard work. However, being a good friend is something that with God’s help can be accomplished. Check out our tips on how to become a good friend.

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family – Proverbs 18:24 (Message)

 

  • Be Friendly – If you want to have friends you must begin by being friendly.
    Proverbs 18:24 – A man that hath friends must show himself friendly (KJV)If you want to have good friends you’ve got to begin by being friendly. Focus on going out of your way to talk to others. By being friendly, and talking to others, you’ll find that you attract more friends.
  • Be There – If you have a friend that is going through a hard time, don’t bail on them. Stick around and just be there for them. Many times you might not know what to say or do, but you just being there will mean a lot to your friend.
  • Listen – A good friend listens to others. Do you spend all the time talking and dominating the conversation? If you do, perhaps take some time to spend listening to others. People will want to be around you more if you’re willing to listen to them.
  • Be Light –  One of the best ways you can be a good friend is by letting your life show others how good Jesus is. Let your friends know what a difference Jesus has made in your life. Don’t hide your relationship with God, but let that relationship shine though in all you do.

 

Being a good friend takes work, but it is worth it. When you develop good habits in your friendships, you’ll find that you become the type of person others want to be around. Become a good friend so that you can help lead others to know Christ.

Listen: We Can Change the World by Hawk Nelson

How to Deal With Suicidal Thoughts

Devotion for Teens - Suicide

I remember many times as a teenager feeling worthless. I struggled with an extremely low self-esteem. I felt that no one really cared if I existed and I thought about taking my life at times.

I’m going to share with you a few things that I did to help me overcome thoughts of suicide.

  1. I read the book, You Are God’s Best! by T.L. Osborn. I read this book over and over and over again. I had to feed myself with thoughts that I was important and that I mattered to God.
  2. Everyday will be a battle. Everyday I was bombarded with thoughts that I didn’t matter, that I was ugly, gross and unimportant. I had to learn to not be so hard on myself and just accept who I was. It took me some time to develop a healthy picture of myself, so don’t get discouraged if it takes you a while.
  3. Don’t fight alone! I tried to fight this battle alone. I did eventually overcome, but I think I would have had quicker results if I would have asked others for help. I could have had accountability and support when I was going through such a hard time.
  4. Stay busy – Keep yourself busy. Get involved at your church. Ask if you can help out by cleaning or making copies. Help your neighbor lady plant her garden. Volunteer at the local food pantry. Do something to keep yourself busy. The more you stay isolated and alone, the more you will have to battle negative thoughts.
  5. Ask God’s help – You aren’t built to do things in your own ability and strength. Rely on God. Ask Him for help, strength and wisdom to get through your day.

I want to encourage you that if you do struggle with thoughts of suicide, to take the scary step and ask for help. Talk to a teacher at school or a pastor at your church. They have resources that will help you fight this battle.

Finally, suicide is not a good solution to your problems. God has a special plan and purpose for your life. He’s got a unique plan for your life that only you can accomplish. When you think that your life doesn’t matter…that is a lie. It does. It matters to God and it matters to others even if it doesn’t feel like it at times.

Get yourself into God’s word and get yourself some help from a trusted adult and you’ll be on your way to overcoming the battle of suicidal thoughts!

Listen: Gold by Britt Nicole

3 Ways to Be Awesome

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We’re going to talk about three ways to be awesome in this devotion. Everyone wants to be the person that others want to be around. Here’s three ways to bump up your awesome!

  1. Be Genuine. – Its easy to fall into the trap of trying to act like or be someone else. However, people aren’t drawn to those who aren’t real or putting on an act or show. Be genuine and true to yourself, and you’ll find that others will be more likely to be drawn to you.
  2. Care – Take an interest in others around you. Ask someone how their day was. Try to listen to them and get excited about what they’re excited about. Don’t spend all of the time talking and trying to outdo someone. Instead, care about what others are interested in. You’ll find that people will want to be around you more when you do.
  3. Be open –  Be open to suggestions and criticism from others. Many times, friends and family can help you and you can learn from their wisdom. You don’t have to act like you have it all together. Also be open to God’s leading and guiding. God will help you and give you wisdom beyond your years if you’ll be open to listen to His voice. He wants to lead and guide you.

These are just a few ways to bump up the awesome factor in your life. Putting these things into practice will help you become more of a person that others want to be around.

You’re In The Army Now

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People enlist in the armed service of the United States every day. When they do, they sign up and make a commitment to serve. They’re provided with new clothes. Their old identity as nerd, athlete, or dodgeball hero is all gone. They just become a soldier. Then they go into basic training where they endure physical challenges that get their bodies in shape and their minds in line with the rules of the service. In exchange for all this, the government feeds, clothes and houses them during this time and pays their way.

Did you know that as a Christian, you have been enlisted as a soldier representing the Kingdom of God? You no longer represent yourself. In God’s Kingdom, He will clothe you, feed you and provide for you. He also will train you through the Word of God through your pastor’s teaching and your personal devotional time. There are some hard things you have to endure in your soul (mind, will and emotions) and your flesh- like forgiving people and being kind when you don’t feel like it.

Paul wrote a letter to Timothy and encouraged him:

2Timothy 2:3-4 – “Therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. No one who wars tangles with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who chose him to be a soldier.”

The purpose of hardness we endure is to get us in shape. We don’t always feel like praying or reading our Bible, but we know we have to spiritually fit to combat the attacks of the enemy, the devil. In order to win the battles of life, we have to submit to being trained or disciplined by God’s Word so that we win! Just like a soldier in Basic Training, it’s not always joyful- but it reaps a great reward. We learn how to live as a team, rather than just for ourselves.

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Hardness does not include sickness or depression. God never trains us with these- these are attacks of the enemy, the devil. We’re never to endure sickness or depression. Soldiers aren’t trained with these things.

You may be trained through a job with a tough boss. You may be trained in school with a tough teacher. You may be trained through a irritating brother or sister to walk in love and forgive. Just remember, every time you submit to this training and respond correctly, you’re getting in better shape all the time to be a good soldier in God’s army.

Pray: God, I realize I am not my own and you bought me in order to put me in Your army (the church) and represent you to this world. I’m a peace-keeper, I’m resisting the enemy and his attacks with the weapons of Your Word in my mouth. Help me submit to the training because it’s making me a better soldier.

 

The Truth About Friends With Benefits

Friends With BenefitsIf you do a Google search on the term “Friends With Benefits,” you’ll find tons of different opinions. Some will say that these relationships don’t really do any harm, so its okay to enter this type of relationship. Others will tell you that these types of relationships are dangerous. So, with all the different messages out there about friends with benefits, how do you decide what’s right?

First of all, if you’re a Christian, you should be asking, ‘what does the Bible has to say about these types of relationships?’ The Bible should be your final answer on all issues. The Bible says, “Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18 I like how the Bible puts it…Run away from sexual sin.  Bottom line, if a friends with benefits relationship causes you to sin sexually, you should run away from it.

Secondly, no matter what culture tells you, sex is more than just a physical act. Sex is like super glue. It binds you together to the person that you have sex with.  That’s why God encourages you to save sex until marriage. Sex is much more than physical and shouldn’t be taken lightly. There is a great quote from the movie, Friends With Benefits that says it really well. They’re talking about friends with benefits and Tommy says this, “She’s a girl. Sex always means more to them even if they don’t admit it”.

Whether you’re a guy or a girl, sex always means more than just the physical act. God designed it that way. Sex is like glue, and if you think you can have lots of sex with lots of different people without getting affected in some way, you’re believing a lie. Sex will affect you, so like 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, run away from sexual sin. Run away from relationships that cause you to sin sexually. Run away from those relationships, so that when the time is right, you will be ready to meet the person that you’re looking for.


Sex180: The Next Revolution This is a great book with lots of ways to rethink our culture’s view of sexuality and challenges you to think about sex how God would!

Success for Teens – Lesson #3 (Use the Moment)

Assignment:

  • What is stopping you from doing your dreams?
  • What is something you liked about the video?

We want to challenge you to do the things that are on your heart, and let us know about your journey!  We’d love to hear from you.

Check out this song by Lecrae – No Regrets

 

Real Friends With Benefits

Friends with benefits is a term that has become increasingly more popular recently especially among teenagers and college students. Urban Dictionary defines the term friends with benefits like this:

“Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment.”

You probably know people at your school that are friends with benefits.  I believe these relationships are so popular because they fill a need that lots of people want: being friends with someone that you really trust, and also having sex with that person.

I believe that God was the one who created REAL friends with benefits.  Yes, you read that right. God was the one who created REAL friends with benefits. Basically, friends with benefits is simply having sex with a close friend.  I believe that is why God created marriage. Marriage allows for sex with your closest friend.  In fact, REAL friends with benefits(Marriage) is way better than anything that you can find in the relationships at your school. REAL friends with benefits is great because it gives you fulfillment that you can never find in a dating relationship. REAL friends with benefits is something that God created for you to enjoy, in marriage.

I encourage you to not allow yourself to settle for anything less than God’s best when it comes to dating relationships.  Sometimes that might mean you may have to wait until God brings that right person into your life. The great news is, God’s best is worth the wait. God can bring a relationship into your life that will be more than you could ever imagine.

REAL friends with benefits is something that will last a lifetime.  REAL friends with benefits will bring you so much more fulfillment than many of the shallow relationships you’ll find at your school.  So, stay strong and wait until you’re married to enjoy the benefits that God created in a REAL friends with benefits relationship, which is marriage.

Listen:  Those Who Wait by Fireflight

Five Technologies Teenagers Need

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As a teenager, you come across tons of technologies every day. It might be texting a friend or listening to something on your iPod, but more than likely you use tons of technology everyday. We’ve come up with five great technologies that we believe every teenager should embrace.

  1. You Version this is an awesome online Bible resource. It comes packed with tons of features. For example, it offers apps for many of the popular phone and music players, allowing you to take the Bible with you wherever you go! Other cool features include tons of great Bible reading plans, listening to the Bible being read to you, and lots of great Bible translations. You Version is a must have for teens!
  2. eSword– this is available for download on PC. eSword offers you the chance to really dig into scripture. It offers multiple translations, dictionaries, concordances, and commentaries. That might sound super dull, but I found that this tool can really make reading the Bible way more exciting and help you understand some of those hard to read passages.
  3. Social MediaFacebook, Twitter, Google+, and Pinterest to throw out a few are actually great ways to grow in your faith. Each platform opens up ways for you to share your faith with your friends. You can share a verse you liked from You Version and suddenly you can encourage 100 of your friends. Also, social media is a great way you can connect with others that feel the same way you do about God. Just make sure you’re always careful about where you share personal info.
  4. iTunes – this is an awesome way to encourage yourself in God. ITunes is packed with tons of great Christian artists who offer encouraging and uplifting messages about God. ITunes offers more than just music. Podcasts are a great free way to get encouraged. There are many podcasts out there to encourage and inspire your walk with God, like Studentdevos. Finally iTunes offers books that are reasonably priced. You are able to have tons of great Christian authors right at your fingertips. ITunes gives you lots of ways to grow spiritually as a teen
  5. Money Tracking App – a way to track your money is a really important tool. Whether you have a job, or just have a few dollars from a birthday or Christmas, you should start keeping track of your money now. With just a few dollars you can open an account at a bank and begin tracking your money. Mint.com also offers a great way to set and track financial goals. No amount of money is too small for you to start putting into place good habits. Make it a habit to start giving now. Give to your local church and watch how much God will bless you as you give. Start good giving and savings habits now. The habits you put in place today will set you up for success in the future!

These are some technologies that if used can really set you up for success in the future! Check them out and let us know what ones you liked!