We started last week talking a bit about dating relationships. Today we’re going to look into it a little more.
Have you ever thought about the fact that the person you’re dating, if you’re in a relationship, most likely won’t be the person you marry? Most relationships, especially when you are young come to an end. Yes, there are exceptions to that rule, but most do end. And if they end, then when you’re in the relationship, you should keep that in mind. Why? Because it will help you keep a proper perspective on your relationship.
Because if you know your relationship more than likely will end, then it keeps you from putting too much into it. Here are some examples.
If you know your relationship will end, it keeps you from putting too much time into it. Let’s say that you spend all your time with the person you date. So much so that you begin to ignore your other friendships. What happens when that relationship ends? Have your friends made all new friends and aren’t as willing to hang out with you any more?
Today’s Truth: Most Dating Relationships End, Don’t Invest too Much into them.
How about money? What if you spend lots of money on the person you date. Maybe you buy them nice gifts. What happens when the relationship ends? Do you think you’d wish you’d have spent less on them?
What about your imagination? Have you spent time thinking about your future with this person? Maybe you have your hopes up that they’re the person you’ll marry, and so you spend so much time imagining your future together. What if the relationship ends? What does that mean for you?
The same things can be said about how much you give physically, how much of your heart you give away, and how much energy you put into the relationship.
Be sure when you date that you don’t put too much into your relationship. Take caution to guard your heart and don’t give away too much in your relationships. Know that God is the one who you’re supposed to give your all to. Giving everything to another person puts them in the place of God in your life which isn’t healthy.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. – Matthew 6:33 (NIV)
Set good boundaries in your relationships. Don’t give away too much, and always guard your relationship with God. By seeking God first in your relationships, all the other things will be added back to you as well.
