Losing a person you love is never easy. When someone you love passes away, it is a very tough thing. You’re hit with so many emotions. Some people get angry, while others feel sad. Some feel guilty or blame themselves when something bad happens. There are tons of emotions that come when you are faced with the loss of someone you love.
So how do you channel those feelings of sadness, loss or even anger? Here are a few things I learned when I was faced with the loss of a loved one a few years ago.
- Don’t let it affect your relationship with God. This was the biggest mistake I made in my time of loss. I had lots of questions about why the person I loved died. I didn’t understand. I was mad and let my unanswered questions hurt my relationship with God.
When a loved one passes away, you’re bound to have questions. You may even want to blame God for what happened. However, no matter how many questions you have or how mixed up you feel inside, God is not to blame. Don’t allow your questions to keep you from going to God for help and healing in this tough time.
- Recovering from loss takes time. Losing a loved one is not something you just ‘get over’. It takes time. It will take time for you to feel okay. You might experience tons of difficult emotions, that’s okay. You might be faced with your family or life just not feeling right or normal anymore. That is okay too. It will take time for you to heal. Don’t be upset if you’re not feeling like yourself for awhile.
Losing someone you love is a big deal and it takes time for you to recover.
- Get help if you need it. Sometimes you need to talk to someone about your loss. You might have a lot of emotions that you need to work through. Its okay to get some help. Go to a pastor or a counselor at your school. These people are trained to help you process your grief in healthy ways. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
Losing a loved one is a big deal. However, you can take comfort in the fact that God is always there for you. He’s there to help you heal. You can put your trust in Him. He will be your strength and anchor when things get tough. Look to him to be what grounds you when dealing with the loss of someone you love.
We have this hope as an anchor for our lives, safe and secure. – Hebrews 6:19 (Holman)
Why, God, Why?: What to Do When Life Doesn’t Make Sense
This is a powerful book that will help you deal with the questions you face when dealing with the loss of a loved one.