you’ve messed up sexually…now what?

Its easy when you’ve gone to far sexually to think that there is no hope.  You might think that you’ve messed up too much and there is no hope for you.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  If you’ve gone to far sexually in a relationship, things aren’t over for you.

Its also easy to think that now you can’t do anything for God or to let going to far with sex make you think that God doesn’t love you or care for you.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  God loves you.  That will never change. He might not be super happy with a choice you made, but that doesn’t change his love to you.

So, how do you move beyond going to far sexually?

1. Talk to God about it. – Simply let God know how you feel about messing up sexually.  The Bible talks about this in 1 John 1:9.  He says if we let him know when we mess up, that he will forgive us, and cleanse us from all our sin.  So let God know about it and don’t let it stop you from talking to God.
2. Ask God for healing – Depending on the nature of your sexual relationship, you might be experiencing some pain or hurt from the situation.  Ask God for his help and healing for the situation.
3. Make a new path.  Decide to set up good boundaries in your dating relationships to keep you from going to far sexually again.  Find ways to protect yourself.  Also, continue to stay close to God.  As you fall deeper in love with God, it becomes easier to say no to sexual temptation.

Messing up sexually is not the end.  God is always there to help you get back on track if you’ve messed up sexually.  Remember that you can always go to Him to get the help and healing you need to live a life free from sexual sin.