In high school I always fell into the trap of liking someone that didn’t like me back. After several years of tormenting myself with crush after crush that didn’t like me back, I realized there had to be a better way. I’m going to share with you some things that I learned on how to handle crushes not liking me back.
- Not every person is going to like you – This really freed me up a lot to enjoy life much more. I began to realize that not every person I met was going to want to date me. Once I realized this, it took a lot of the pressure off to just enjoy life and not care so much if someone liked me.
- Turn around, there is probably someone behind you that does like you – Many times its easy to focus so much on the crush that doesn’t like us, that we don’t realize there is a person right beside or behind us at church or at school that does like us. We miss them many times because we are more focused on trying to get our crush to like us that we miss out on other good opportunities around us.
- Take a close look at yourself – If you’re noticing that you’re consistently not getting people to take interest in you, examine yourself. Perhaps you’re doing something that is keeping other people from being interested in you. Check up to see if there is something you can work on to become more attractive to others.
- Don’t sweat it – Many times you may not find Mr. or Mrs. Right in your school. Many people meet their significant other in college or after high school. If for some reason you’re not finding someone you click with, you’ve got plenty of time after school to find that special someone.
It can be hard when your crush doesn’t like you back to not get sad and think there is something wrong with you. I encourage you to keep trusting God and relying on Him to be the source of your happiness. Even if your crush never likes you back, you can take comfort knowing that God thinks you’re great!
Pray: God, I thank you that you love me no matter what. Even when my crush doesn’t, you do. I choose to make my happiness be in you, not in what others think of me. Thank you for loving me just the way I am! Amen.