I can remember it clearly. I was eleven years old riding in the passenger seat with my mom. I thought I was helping her get the weekly groceries, but to my surprise it became a discussion that was both embarrassing and eye opening. My mom gave me the ‘sex talk’. I tried to change the subject and told my mom that she didn’t need to explain anything to me because I already heard it before. What I didn’t realize was that I hadn’t heard the talk from a positive, Godly perspective. My whole perspective of sex took a different focus when I heard how wonderful sex could be and how it wasn’t something that God had intended to be negative or dirty.
My mom’s sex talk changed my focus from wanting to have sex as soon as possible to waiting until God brought the right person into my life. Here are a few of the things that stood out to me from my talk that day.
1. God created sex and intended for it to be good
Sex is not something that man made up, God did. He knew what He was doing and intended for a man and a women to enjoy sex in the context of marriage.
Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. -Proverbs 5:18
Hearing this really helped me believe that God had good plans for my marriage and sex in marriage. If learned that if I could just wait for marriage, I could then have a lifetime of great sex and still know that I was being pleasing to God at the same time. How cool is that?
I held on to this hope for 22 years until I finally got married at age 33. There were a few times I struggled and was about to give up on my commitment to be sexually pure until marriage. However, it was this truth that one day it would all be worth it that kept me focused all those years on my goal.
2. When you have sex, you become one
Another point that my mom brought to my attention during the car ride was that when two people have sex, they become one.
And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” – 1 Corinthains 6:16
When you have sex with someone you join your soul, mind and spirit to the other person. This can open up doors to the enemy that God never intended for you to deal with.
The talk I had that day with my mom in the car was pretty awkward for a pre-teen like myself, but it turned out to be a very positive motivator. It was at that moment I decided that I wanted to wait to have sex until I got married so that I could share that gift of with my wife alone.
Believe me, I was a normal hormonal teenager. So this decision wasn’t easy at times. But, looking back I’m very glad I did. I got to experience sex the way God intended it, just with my wife.
God created sex and intends for it to be great. However, this plan is accomplished by keeping it in marriage. Whether you had sex in the past or waited up to this point, choose to not have sex until marriage. You’re CLOSED for now.